In my field, the nonverbal communication code of touch is known as haptics. Yes, it’s the same term phone manufacturers use to refer to the mobile phone vibrate notification. In particular, the handshake has been a powerful tool in Western business communication for decades.
So I’ve been very curious about how our use of touch, including the handshake, will change when physical distancing is relaxed, what it will mean, and how we’ll adapt.
Confession: I will not be unhappy to see the habit of business hugging go away. I always thought that was fraught and even sexist as we rarely see two men doing it. Of course, if you’re a woman and refuse the gesture, it becomes awkward and you risk being labeled a cold bitch.
But what about the handshake? I’ve always liked it and have promoted it. But because of what we’ve all learned about disease transmission, we’ll likely need to rethink it. I would not be surprised if it also goes away. If that happens, is there an alternative greeting we should adopt?
I agree with you and thought a lot of the hugging was phony anyway. I admit I’ve complied, but I believe we’re expected to always be nice even when we don’t feel it. As for the handshake, I liked it more for the impression I would get….weak handshake, strong handshake, etc., I find it’s important to have a “greeting,” especially when we’re being introduced to someone by someone we know, not so necessarily in meeting strangers. I don’t believe in touch there. So, in place of the handshake, I suggest a warm smile and good eye contact and perhaps a nod for acknowledgement that says, “It’s nice to meet you.” I miss you Ruth! And I would give you a hug!
I’ve been wondering about the gesture that I think originated with the Hindu custom of “namaste,” putting hands together in a prayer-like position and giving a slight bow or nod. We’ve seen that a lot from speakers who acknowledge audience applause, so there is precedent and we’re somewhat familiar with it. But I would want to give you a hug, too, Eve! xo
Good ask, I have been wondering how all of this will change the way we interact. I believe we will all be very cautious in the beginning and then eventually slack off after some time.
I agree with eve, a handshake reveals much about a person, another tool to “assess” the person. There has been introduced elbow touches, shaking hands with feet, which I would rather just nod at the other person in acknowledgement.
I like the namaste gesture, although some business people would see that as awkward too!
as for the hug, there is that personality type who need to hug, I go along, although in business, it should not be the first gesture, so this will probably change that, which will be good, at least for awhile. It will have us all rethinking our greetings.
It’s up in the air for now. Some people may need hugs, but I’ve always disliked going along, though I’ve done exactly that. Thanks for your thoughtful response, LeAnn.